These are questions that I wrote for a colleague who was dealing with a specific member of her family, but I believe they are helpful as a reference point for any situation. Please read s previous Using the Questions with Family Members for a more detailed explanation…
Life in general…(SMART Goals and Plans)
- Do you have any goals?
- If not, does not having goals help you move towards happiness?
- Do you have action steps that will really help you accomplish your goal(s)?
- How do you know if you are making progress?
- S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Aligned with Quality World Picture (What you want)
R = Results Oriented (Success)
T = Time-Bound and Transferable (Would it work at home and at school?)
- Example: By the end of the week I will spend at least three, 15 minute sessions of quality (fun) time with each of my children. I will record each fun event in a notebook and review it on Sunday.
- Alternate Way: Involve the children and let them graph or record the times….
Obviously, if you are asking a family member these questions, you will want to make the questions sound like you – so work them into your own language. Remember that you are just the questioner; it is not as effective if you just tell the person what you think.